Should I Warn That Poor Gal?

Minerva asked:


Ok so I had a deep relationship 7 years ago with this Tamil guy. He asked me to marry him, but his parents threw a ****-fit and demanded he break up with me (Iyengars, folks!!) guess the love of his life wasn’t good enough for them, nor was their son’s happiness. Nice people, eh?

So anyways I come up pregnant and they try to force him to kill me. He beats me so badly the baby comes out permanently and severely disabled. I get away from him, because they want the baby dead even AFTER she is born. What great Iyengar Religious people!

THEN I find out he’s been married all along to a Lesbian in the US for greencard purposes. THEN I find out he had a 4 year relationship with some russian chick before me even. Starting to get the picture here?

Well I lost him fast and married a great Punjabi dude who’s family totally accpeted my child, and I even had another baby with my new husband, they still treat my first child as their first grandchild.
They are as wonderful as the Iyengars are ROTTEN. The Iyengars, after failed attempts on my daughter’s life (her bio-father was attached to her by this time) refused to acknowlege her existance, never sent her a birthday present, card, call, NOTHING. But my new family dotes on her, sends her all gold, clothing, toys, calls her everyday from India even tho we are now in US.

So Mr. Bio-father comes back to Canada. Begs me to bring his kid to see him. Then informs me that:

A: He has gotten married AGAIN as per his parent’s wishes (another Iyengar, only an innocent one this time) and

B: He fooled her into it by failing to inform her of his kid, then dumping the news on her on his wedding night.

Now here are my two questions:

1- should I cut off all contact betwe him and his daughter, because I know that his idiot family will only treat her like an illigitimate child, a dirty mistake, ect, when she is the sweetest little girl in the world and deserves no such thing, and that especially
if he has “pure” Iyengar kids down the line?

2- should I find this gal and inform her of his other marriage, other relationships, and the fact that he likes to beat pregnant women? I mean, I really do want revenge, but I also feel that the poor gal was totally fooled into marrying a fool, and it’s not her fault and she shoudl at least have the choice of annulling this faux marriage. Shouldn’t she?

Also, is there any way I can hold that horrible Iyengar mother-in-law responsible for the harm she indirectly and directly inflicted upon my daughter? (I’m talking physical harm via the many beatings she promoted.) I do have some powerful relatives now in India, whereas before I had none. So I wasn’t in a position to take action before, but now I would love to see that toothy smile from behind bars…

Any ideas? I am cooking mad about the whole thing and I think this rotten stinking family all deserve prison time, if not worse, especially for fooling that poor girl!
Please keep in mind this was a totally arranged marriage where the poor gal didn’t even get to meet him before marriage!
Just to clarify, calling the cops in India (where this happened) is not an option. For the most part, neither is escaping. I was just extremely lucky.

I also don’t know how to contact this gal, but I think I can figure it out thru the net.